In no particular order (and I may update this more as time goes on)
here are some things that came to mind today so I jotted them down.
For the guys:
Sometimes she isn't as worried about how much you like what she did to her hair, but that you noticed.
With out looking what color are her eyes. Think about any details about them you may know of. If she asks you one day you should know the answers. Because she does and to her it counts.
When you are both together and alone tell her that you are going to shout to the world that you love her... then shout it out! And when she reminds you that you are alone and no one else can hear it remind her that SHE is your world so mission accomplished.
Have flowers delivered to her work (if it is possible) and just have the note say "Just because".
If she asks you if you would ever love another girl say "Yes, in (how ever long you feel comfortable with) years I will and she will call you mommy".
Hug her from behind, kiss her neck and then walk away...
When you are talking about something take her face in your hands and say, "Hey...shhh...I love you.." (said honestly and meaningfully)
Find out what is most important to her and see to it that she has access to it as often as you can. (education, vacations, road trips etc. etc.)
Plant little post it notes in her purse, briefcase, over her coffee cup in the morning or what ever else she may have that you can place a note in/on that have sweet messages or compliments about her that you love. And be considerate about it... I love your huge tits are not acceptable.
If she is feeling insecure then do things that make her feel that you are there, there for her and only her. In public..especially when there are other women around. Grab her hand, kiss her face, her neck. Wrap your arms around her and remind her that you are still surprised that of all the other guys in the world your the lucky bastard that she chose to be with. If you see a girl checking you out then that should be a good time to do that.
Remember that you are with her for a reason. Do not get flirty with another girl and remember that every time you do something with another woman in the presence of your wife/girlfriend that it breaks a little piece off of the relationship and wont come back. It adds up.
Dancing in the middle of the kitchen/living room is good. Even with out music. I don't mean the electric slide I mean a slow dance holding her close cheek to cheek just because you are happy to be near her.
Share an intimate thought or feeling with her once in a while. Let her in. Let her feel like you are letting her in.
( more to come later...)
For the girls:
Always remember. men can't and probably wont ever be able to read your mind. You know what the means.
Subtle hints not working? Then stop using them.
Stop expecting to see a reciprocation for things you do. Most men wont. Most men cant comprehend the thing you did requires it.
Don't expect him to not feel hurt, offended or ignored if you act like you aren't together when out in public when there is a guy you like around you. Understand that every time you treat him like he isn't there....a little piece breaks off the relationship and never comes back.
If you haven't told him that you like things done a certain way during sex and he doesn't do it the way you want it and you aren't satisfied in bed...that's your fault. If you haven't told him how the best way to make you orgasm and you have to fake it...that's your fault.
if you told him and he still doesn't do it...then he is basically selfish..not worth your effort..
A man normally says exactly what he thinks, feels. he isn't hard to figure out. More than 90% of the male thought processes for most men is food, sex, cars. Sometimes you can add beer and sports in that mix. That's it. He wont want ask to cuddle, snuggle or be made to feel pretty.
If you are being walked over by him and you allow it...and don't get out or fix it then you must like it. Don't be that girl! there are always options!
If you had a dream that he cheated on you...don't treat him like he cheated on you. it was just a dream.
If he did cheat on you then he is an asshat and instead of torturing him just leave.
If you cheated on him then you are an asshat and should be the one being left.
Always consider this: What YOU might think is an emergency may not actually be an emergency.
Sex isn't a tool. Stop treating it like one. Sex in a relationship is healthy. It helps ease tensions, headaches and is cardio exorcise!
For everyone:
Communicate
Treat each other with respect
If you are miserable in a relationship and communication is not working...WHY ARE YOU STILL IN IT?
And finally (but not really)
If you love someone then treat them that way or you may not have them to love for much longer.
here are some things that came to mind today so I jotted them down.
For the guys:
Sometimes she isn't as worried about how much you like what she did to her hair, but that you noticed.
With out looking what color are her eyes. Think about any details about them you may know of. If she asks you one day you should know the answers. Because she does and to her it counts.
When you are both together and alone tell her that you are going to shout to the world that you love her... then shout it out! And when she reminds you that you are alone and no one else can hear it remind her that SHE is your world so mission accomplished.
Have flowers delivered to her work (if it is possible) and just have the note say "Just because".
If she asks you if you would ever love another girl say "Yes, in (how ever long you feel comfortable with) years I will and she will call you mommy".
Hug her from behind, kiss her neck and then walk away...
When you are talking about something take her face in your hands and say, "Hey...shhh...I love you.." (said honestly and meaningfully)
Find out what is most important to her and see to it that she has access to it as often as you can. (education, vacations, road trips etc. etc.)
Plant little post it notes in her purse, briefcase, over her coffee cup in the morning or what ever else she may have that you can place a note in/on that have sweet messages or compliments about her that you love. And be considerate about it... I love your huge tits are not acceptable.
If she is feeling insecure then do things that make her feel that you are there, there for her and only her. In public..especially when there are other women around. Grab her hand, kiss her face, her neck. Wrap your arms around her and remind her that you are still surprised that of all the other guys in the world your the lucky bastard that she chose to be with. If you see a girl checking you out then that should be a good time to do that.
Remember that you are with her for a reason. Do not get flirty with another girl and remember that every time you do something with another woman in the presence of your wife/girlfriend that it breaks a little piece off of the relationship and wont come back. It adds up.
Dancing in the middle of the kitchen/living room is good. Even with out music. I don't mean the electric slide I mean a slow dance holding her close cheek to cheek just because you are happy to be near her.
Share an intimate thought or feeling with her once in a while. Let her in. Let her feel like you are letting her in.
( more to come later...)
For the girls:
Always remember. men can't and probably wont ever be able to read your mind. You know what the means.
Subtle hints not working? Then stop using them.
Stop expecting to see a reciprocation for things you do. Most men wont. Most men cant comprehend the thing you did requires it.
Don't expect him to not feel hurt, offended or ignored if you act like you aren't together when out in public when there is a guy you like around you. Understand that every time you treat him like he isn't there....a little piece breaks off the relationship and never comes back.
If you haven't told him that you like things done a certain way during sex and he doesn't do it the way you want it and you aren't satisfied in bed...that's your fault. If you haven't told him how the best way to make you orgasm and you have to fake it...that's your fault.
if you told him and he still doesn't do it...then he is basically selfish..not worth your effort..
A man normally says exactly what he thinks, feels. he isn't hard to figure out. More than 90% of the male thought processes for most men is food, sex, cars. Sometimes you can add beer and sports in that mix. That's it. He wont want ask to cuddle, snuggle or be made to feel pretty.
If you are being walked over by him and you allow it...and don't get out or fix it then you must like it. Don't be that girl! there are always options!
If you had a dream that he cheated on you...don't treat him like he cheated on you. it was just a dream.
If he did cheat on you then he is an asshat and instead of torturing him just leave.
If you cheated on him then you are an asshat and should be the one being left.
Always consider this: What YOU might think is an emergency may not actually be an emergency.
Sex isn't a tool. Stop treating it like one. Sex in a relationship is healthy. It helps ease tensions, headaches and is cardio exorcise!
For everyone:
Communicate
Treat each other with respect
If you are miserable in a relationship and communication is not working...WHY ARE YOU STILL IN IT?
And finally (but not really)
If you love someone then treat them that way or you may not have them to love for much longer.
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