Why?
Well let me tell you why!
Ok so this woman is a friend of my sister and bro in law. She was a red head (go figure...but only with hair dye) and she was good looking. Well kind of. Ok not really good looking just a little on the goo0d side of good looking and not ugly.
Any how!
She was with someone so I was already turned off.
Thats how I roll right?
Now a few years down the line I am asked if I could help her with a drive to Virginia to get a dog she purchased. I thought cool. I can do that. Not fully aware that this is the same women I was already interested in.
Now here is the story as I recal!
We made the drive up there.
The whole time I am thinking... She is what I have looked for! She likes shooting, hunting and fishing. She likes camping and baits her own hook. She is a preper like me and is not afraid of the dark!
PERFECT!
Then I find out she is just been dumped by a drunk. Ok so I didn't see the warning sign. My fault!
There were more but I refused to acknowledged them.
We made it up there great. Got along very well! We clicked! Even when exhausted we clicked! W0oT!!
We slept in seperate beds at the hotels on the way up and back. No biggie. I didnt expect to leap in to bed with her right?
Now we are back, she gopes her way and I go mine.
The next weekend she suggests I come to see her on the other side of the state. About 3-4 hrs drive depending on traffic.
So any how there we are visiting and shit having a great time. I am in the spare room. Get the drift of how things are going? This goes on for a month, then another. All this time I am learning about her and the red flags were POURING in and I was the dumb ass to ignore them.
So we haven't had sex and have just smooched on the lips a few times. Nothing really big. No touching etc.
I am falling in love with her for some damn reason I cannot fathom.
She isn't really capable of giving anything to any one that could even be construde as love or affection.
You see...
She is on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds as well as just fucking bonkers. She isnt over the guy who dumped her either and I can see that she has no clue about things around her. NONE!
And she is oblivious to other people. Strange as it seems right? NOPE! She has the observational skills of a tree.
So now we are talking 3 months down the line and she (I almost forgot!)!
She HATES talking on the phone. She gives a lame excuse of just hating it but its easier for her to hide emotions or lie. And run from a conversation.... she is REALLY good at that. On texting she will just drop the convo and disappear for an hour.
To be fair she said no relationships until she can feel good about being herself with no one taking that from her. To a point I can say OH SHUT UP! You can do that and still be affectionate to people!
Npow back to th other stuff. Three months on and so far nothing. No affection, no intimacy no sex...etc etc. She is always talking about her EX (the drunk that dumped her) and its a daily thing.
I want to support her and help her and I do my best but it is tiring and she has no clue. She is always saying something about being a strong man and waiting for a woman blah blah. Always posting it in memes.
I guess no one told her that if you really care about someone and want them to wait for you you should probably give them something to feel that what they are waiting for is worth it. Holding hands, cuddling (yes I can cuddle the fuck out of someone with out it turning into sex) etc.
NOPE! Not this fucking ICE QUEEN BITCH!
So now we are at today, 19 April 2015. Last I heard from her was about 430PM
No text no call no nothing.
Now she has put me on limited access to her facebook.
Why?
A responce to what I did.
I said I was done, time was up and I think I put in tic toc. In 3 different posts. Then when I got home from fishing I stopped "following" her facebook page and put her into acquaintances access level. Why? Well she never followed me which is no biggie really but its important you understand...when you "follow" someone you get their posts and likes etc etc. She never followed me. See where I am going? Conscientiously chose to not see my posts unless they were direct replies to hers. This is important so remember that. She posted at least 4 photos a day. She would only really say anything to me if I made a comment that really was a request for a response from her. And only if it were a compliment about her photo edited pictures. yes, with the exception of a couple she only posted edited pictures.
Now here is the killer....
I had decided that she was so very much bad for me that I was going to "dump" her today. We weren't dating but to stop being around her and stop letting my feelings grow etc etc.
So at this moment I tried to text her and call her. Nothing. After posting this I am going to kick her off my "friends" list and post, "Well after this little 3 month adventure I seem to STILL have bad taste in women".
I know it will get back to her and I already know she will not say anything to me but she will go into super meme post addiction saying how its making her strong blah blah. In other words she is going to loose her mind and hope her friends help her find it again.
Which they wont. Unless they are bearing xanex and other antidepressants. But what she really needs is some force feeding of reality and truth and she refuses to do that.
And what really pisses me off about ME? I allowed this shit. She gave me so many reason to not be there and NO reasons TO be there. None.
But I kept up hope that she would. Sometime. Wishful thinking doesn't make it so.